The survey revealed that men suffer far more in emotional terms than women — and are much more likely to let themselves go and not eat properly. In the year after divorce, 48 per cent of men describe themselves as feeling ‘very lonely’, compared with just 35 per cent of women。
Men often bear the financial brunt of divorce, too, finding themselves supporting the family they have left behind and somehow having to finance a new roof over their own head, too. If they meet someone new, they are then faced with the prospect of supporting their new partner and any additional children。
Women, the survey stated, find it much easier to ‘move on’ and leave the past behind, and have a far wider emotional support network of friends. As a result, it is perhaps no surprise that more women than ever are initiating divorce. The latest UK figures for 2009 show that 68 per cent of the 113,949 divorce proceedings that year were started by women。
More long-term marriages are ending, too — divorce initiated by women in the age 45-plus bracket rose by an astonishing 30 per cent in the ten years between 1997 and 2007.
'Women seem to cope much better emotionally with divorce. They have a wider network of friends, find it much easier to talk about their emotions than men, and although they are not always better off financially, they often use divorce as the springboard to a new career'
Adam Witkover, divorce lawyer